Breasts/Body Image

I have always been self conscious about my body, as do most people (especially females). I'm sure it has to do with a variety of things: family and friends influences by making comments, how media portrays the ideal image in magazines, movies, television, etc., a personal mental block and unacceptance of my own body, etc etc.

I recently decided to look up "normal breasts" online. I've seen the many "perfect" boobs in movies and on pornographic sites, and I always felt that mine were so ugly in comparison. I always wondered why mine were the way they are. I felt that I was cursed with the not-so-ideal body.

After conducting my search, I found an interesting site that truly opened my eyes to things. It's a fairly simple site that is not glamorous or completely grammar-perfect. But the information is PRICELESS. It talks of how media portrays the ideal image of breasts and that that's all we see growing up, so it's only natural that we would compare ourselves with media images. It talks of how the breast's natural purpose is to feed babies and shouldn't be primarily a source of sexual stimulation. It talks of how the main reason that boobs are such a huge turn on for men is due to the fact that we are so sheltered from normal breasts. We grow up as children being taught that we shouldn't look at boobs and we rarely see them. We grow up and see them more because we have movies and internet. But the problem is that when searching online for boobs, you will mainly find pornographic material. And we all know how very fake and unreal these people are. So we gain an unrealistic view of how bodies should look (as well as how sex should be).

So anyway, I learned a lot from this site (007b.com), and have been on my own personal journey of accepting myself. I'm slowly accepting my breasts/body as it is (although it's a long and hard process).

I also was recently invited to a book club/discussion group that focuses on women's issues. We'll read essays and books that involve woman positive stuff as well as discuss other topics such as feminism. I'm excited about it and really hope that it kicks off soon.